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Live the Life You Desire – Now!

Franck Pasquet — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 19:55:50 +0000

It seems that everything you’ve ever learned is about preparing yourself for a better future. It’s easy to get so caught up in the future that you lose the ability to enjoy the life you’re living right now. The Power Of The Present The first thing you should do to take action toward a better life is to realize the power that the present moment holds. There are different ways you can truly come to this realization, but the most popular and widely accepted method is meditation. Meditation allows you to clear your mind. It’s refreshing to focus on the present moment when you find the time to sit down and relax without any worries about the past or future. This personal reflection time will allow you to sort out your inner thoughts. On the flipside, take note of the number of times your mind tries to distract you from the present moment. You’ll be surprised to see just how many times your mind steals the present moment from you, in order to dwell on the past or future. Enjoying The Journey Your journey is all you have. Your goals are important, but it’s the path you take toward your goals that yield many fruits. You must be willing to enjoy your life and live consciously, even if you haven’t yet reached your goals. If you have a lofty goal, such as becoming a doctor or the CEO of a large company, realize that it will take much planning and years of experience. Once you reach your goal, you may feel fulfilled, but your life mustn’t b Continue Reading...

Action Strategies to Reduce Anxiety

Franck Pasquet — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 05:05:22 +0000

Are you seeking a solution for your anxiety? Perhaps you’ve found yourself spending lots of time sitting around and worrying, only to end up having more anxiety over your anxiety! The only way to help the situation is to take action. You don’t need to resort to anything drastic, but if you take action even in small steps it could make all the difference. Here are some action strategies for reducing your anxiety: 1. Get a biofeedback device. A biofeedback device will show you the subtle things your body does when it gets anxious. It will record your actions, such as increased heart rate, perspiration, temperature, and strained muscles. These are things you don’t normally notice. When the biofeedback device gives you these readings, you get to know your body better and you’re then more able to counteract these symptoms and relax. 2. Talk with friends. Feeling anxious also usually makes you feel quite alone. One way to combat this is to remain open about your feelings and communicate with other people. Make time for your friends or family. 3. Seek counseling. You know yourself best and will be able to tell if you’re having mild anxiety problems or severely life-altering issues. If your anxiety is showing an interference with your daily life, seek the advice of a healthcare professional. 4. Meditate. Meditation is certainly an action strategy even though it seems like quite the opposite. Your choice to be inactive is an action in itself. Try to medit Continue Reading...

Bring More Joy into Your Life

Franck Pasquet — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 04:50:21 +0000

Do you feel like all you do is prepare for future joyful times? Perhaps you hear sayings like “live each day as if it were your last” but you have trouble truly taking it to heart. Experiencing joyful times can take some extra effort on your part. The truth is, it’s a choice. We live in busier and busier times and must remember to schedule time to slow down and enjoy life in the present. Everyone has a unique definition of what joy means for them. Even on your busiest of days, you should strive to pause and remember what is important in your life, then live your life according to your own priorities. The Joy Of Everyday Things We have the ability to find joy right here in the lives we lead now. While it’s fun to go out experiencing new and exciting things, it’s always best to start where we are. There are things to appreciate and opportunities for joy in everyday situations. Consider these things on your quest for joy and fulfillment: 1. Spend quality time with family. While it’s always a good idea to have meal times together, you can find much joy in just spending some quality time with your loved ones at home. Some people might enjoy family game night, while others might prefer to talk and share what’s happening in their life. 2. Relax with an activity you enjoy. Do you skip out on yourself in a quest to do one more chore before bed? Choose your own relaxing activity and make it a priority. Play a computer game, read a book, or take Continue Reading...

9 Ways to Ignite the Passion in Your Relationships

Franck Pasquet — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 05:09:55 +0000

After you’ve been in a relationship for a while, you’re likely to encounter a time when the passion dies down. However, it’s not something you should completely live without either. Everyone falls into certain patterns that are comfortable. But, by breaking out of your comfort zone every so often, you’ll experience a sense of newness in your relationship. It’s important to seek out that certain spark you felt when you first got together with your partner. Those feelings are still there, you just might need to be creative in finding ways to bring them out again. Here are some ways that you can reignite the passion in your relationships: 1. Go out of your way. Remember at the beginning of your relationship how you would go out of your way to make your partner extra happy? Make these efforts again! It’ll surprise your partner and be a reminder about how much you love them. * It doesn’t have to be an everyday thing, but everyone deserves a little “above and beyond” treatment! 2. Show your gratitude. You often think to yourself how grateful you are that your partner did something for you, and it’s important to let your partner know of your gratitude, too. * You can do this through better communication and positive actions. Many times a simple, “Thank you for…” statement will let him know how much you appreciate his efforts. 3. Be considerate. Sometimes your partner is the only one who will allow you to b Continue Reading...

How to Write Your Own Affirmations

Franck Pasquet — Sat, 03 Oct 2009 20:52:33 +0000

Affirmations are everywhere, and they have the strong ability to lift your spirits to get through hard times. This is because we’re all highly suggestible, even if we think we’re not! Affirmations help us to keep a positive attitude about life. It’s only natural that we’ll get more out of these positive sayings if we formulate them ourselves. Writing our own affirmations makes them personal to us, which can then help us to get through our own individual situations. When you start writing your own affirmations, keep these tips in mind: 1. Make them personal. When you write affirmations, it’s important to remember to use “I” in them. They are personal to you after all. Example: “I am having an exceptional day today!” 2. Use the present tense. Affirmations are built in order to change our feelings now, which is why you want to stay positive and strong in this moment. When you use the past tense, you get nostalgic. When you use the future tense, you get hopeful. The present tense helps you feel the difference right now. Example: “I am feeling relaxed.” 3. Be down to earth. This just means to use your own style and try not to make your affirmations too formal or wishy-washy. You want to capture your own voice. Bad Example: “Presently I feel the urge to enjoy my existence.” Good Example: “I enjoy my life.” 4. Be short. Affirmations are meant to be short, simple and sweet. Stay Continue Reading...

How to Boost Your Self-Esteem During Difficult Times

Franck Pasquet — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 19:43:35 +0000

Attempting to boost your self-esteem during normal times is hard enough, but what happens when you’re dealing with a difficult period in your life? Stressful issues like job loss, broken relationships, or sickness can lower our self-esteem. We tend to take the blame and feel that, if we were “better,” these things wouldn’t have happened in the first place. When thinking rationally, we may realize that this is untrue, but it’s harder during times of struggle to feel good about ourselves! Here are some simple strategies you can use to give your self-esteem a boost during trying times: [hana-code-insert name='content' /] 1. Focus on the positive. Yes, negative things can happen in your life, but this must not be your only focus. As I’m sure you’ve heard before: “Things could be worse.” Try to turn your attention onto what you have that is good. * Whether it’s wonderful children, a terrific spouse, or a roof over your head, focus on what is positive and special in your life. * Not only will this make you feel better about your current situation, but you’ll also realize that these good things would not have been possible without you. * It’s time to understand that you are a positive influence in the lives of many. Realistically, everyone has to deal with difficult times as a part of growing and maturing. Try to remember that “this too shall pass” and keep your chin up. 2. Take time for you. With al Continue Reading...

I embrace my love and I keep it constant.

Franck Pasquet — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 20:43:44 +0000

I embrace my love and I keep it constant. Because my love adds joy and meaning to my life, I embrace it and keep it constant. I do not allow silly arguments to question our foundation. I openly communicate with my partner about my thoughts, feelings, and frustrations. I let go of the need to hurt my spouse or to prove myself right and, instead, focus on simply expressing how the situation made me feel. I always aim for understanding, not revenge. I recognize that there are always at least two points of view in any conflict, and I take the time to listen to the other side. I have let go of the need to have the last word and I am satisfied if we both feel that we have been heard, even if we haven’t yet reached an amicable solution. I make it a point to affirm my partner’s value. I also show that I am trustworthy by who I choose to confide in when we are at odds. I choose to avoid gossip and, instead, focus on achieving peace through positive solutions. I let the little things go. Life is far more important than the way we squeeze the toothpaste tube or where we throw our socks. I invest in our relationship by allowing my partner to be quirky and human, just like me! Self-Reflection Questions: 1. What is my goal when I am discussing issues with my partner? 2. Does my partner feel heard when we are in conflict? 3. Do I confide in people without gossiping? Continue Reading...

How to Love Unconditionally

Franck Pasquet — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 06:40:04 +0000

In order to build a solid foundation in any relationship, whether it’s a marriage, friendship or a relationship with a sibling or child, you must learn to love unconditionally without limits or judgment. Loving someone unconditionally can be hard to do and goes against the grain you were probably taught in today’s Western society. Society tells you to get even or get revenge. However, to love unconditionally requires forgiveness and letting go of the wrongs. So How Do You Love Unconditionally? What’s required to show someone unconditional love when you’re in a relationship? Being there physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually, through thick and thin, no matter what may happen is unconditional love. Physically: Being “there” for someone physically means just what the word implies. You’re there for them in person, standing by their side, listening to them, or talking with them so they’re not alone. This may be at three in the afternoon, or three in the morning! Emotionally: When you’re with someone emotionally, you’re offering your support by allowing them to honestly and openly express their feeling. Supporting someone emotionally with unconditional love also means that you’re there selflessly to help them work through their feelings. The goal is for the person to rise above the negative emotions and turn them into positive ones. You’re the shoulder to cry on! Mentally: Supporting Continue Reading...

Dissolving Past Pain and Moving Forward in Your Life

Franck Pasquet — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 22:05:16 +0000

Have you ever been hurt so badly that you thought you’d never come out on the other side? Perhaps you’re still holding onto that grief. If you are, then it’s time to learn how to let go of past pain. You deserve to let it go and learn how to move forward with your life. Holding onto past pain and anguish is a kind of self-inflicted torture that can cause serious health risks as well as emotional scarring. The truth is, when you cling to the past, you’re internally changing your present. How can something you’ve kept inside for so long just be let go? It’s not an easy task, but it can be done with a little effort and self-reflection. Here are some ways you can let go of past pain and disappointment, so you can move forward with your head held high: 1. Know what’s holding you back. What are you holding onto and why? Identify the things you’re keeping inside that you shouldn’t be. * For example, maybe your best friend betrayed you in a way that broke your trust. Recognize this and figure out a way to finally deal with it. Get in touch with them again, then explain the pain they’ve caused. * They may not even be aware they did anything to upset you. Whether or not they apologize isn’t important. While it may be nice, you can’t control others or force them to say sorry. However, by simply voicing your feelings, you are finding closure from the hurtful situation. * Getting closure on something that was left op Continue Reading...

I always meet my deadlines.

Franck Pasquet — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 03:00:08 +0000

My deadlines are important to me and with careful planning I am able to achieve anything I set my mind to. I plan ahead to ensure I am at my best in order to become the success that I deserve. I make plans to achieve my goals without stress. When I do this, I confidently and calmly meet my aspirations. When I create an effective plan that helps me meet my deadlines, goals and desires in life, I am able to accomplish more with ease. I enjoy the success I create for myself. Visualizing my goals with their deadlines helps me create a solid plan of action. I also leave wiggle room for unexpected changes in case things come up. This allows me to accept little bumps along the way without losing sight of where I am meant to be. I enjoy the relaxed feelings I have when those little bumps come up because I have left room for them in my plans. In turn, I enjoy my journey along the way and I celebrate my success when I reach the finish line victoriously. Today, I carefully construct my plans and remember to leave myself some wiggle room. By doing this, I can meet my deadlines no matter what obstacle may arise in my path. I can enjoy my journey and feel the satisfaction of success. Self-Reflection Questions: Have I planned ahead to meet my deadlines? Have I allowed wiggle room in my plans? Can I take delays in stride because I have planned for such possibilities? Continue Reading...